Fun Home: A Family Tragicomic

Do you think the lack of love and affection from Bruce led Allison to where she is today?

           I do think the lack of love and affection from her father is what shaped the real Allison into the person she is today. In the beginning of the book I felt that Allison observed her family questioning the way they interact with one another, especial the why her parents and why the way they try to be the ideal family. In the process of discovering her family Allison was in a way trying to avoid this unhappy fake act that mostly from her father was living. She did what I feel her father Bruce wanted to do years ago was coming out, introducing the real Allison. By her coming out was a breakthrough for Allison and Bruce’s relationship having that short lived moment in the car when Bruce was telling a story about his past when he had a feeling that he was different, “When I was little, I really wanted to be a girl. I’d dress up in girl’s clothes.”Allison replied, “I wanted to be a boy! I dressed up in boy’s clothes!”(pg221) and for that instant they both shared a connection, even though Bruce was adamant opening up Allison took that moment to heart. Allison today isn’t ashamed of her sexual identity because she saw how her father was prisoner in his own body having to live a lifetime of lies.

Hatching into Butterflies

The one theme that stood out to me was the hatching of each sister’s identity, the defining moment when reality sets in and each sister gains her own voice.

Patria represented faith and believing in a higher power, just like her mom.

“From the beginning” “pearl of great price” She was very grounded by her faith in god. Patria hatching from her cocoon for me was when she meets her husband Pedro on ironically “Holy Thursday”. She previously had struggled with desires, questioning herself and her life’s “calling”. For once Patria put her own desires first before her religion.

Minerva was a strong independent, opinionated woman. She is an educated girl who is driven by politics fighting for freedom, which is derived from being under the control of Trujillo. Her defining moment was when she was confronted by her father about the secret letters from Lio explaining how angry that made him, but she came back at him because he was in the wrong too having a secret that he’s kept from Minerva and the sisters that he has another family. She stood her ground that night asserting her independents.

Dede was the realistic sister who would avoid any kind of trouble. She puts other needs before hers

Her transformation was the day of her sister’s death; she has to relive that day every Nov. 25 or whenever a reporter interviews her. She has to keep her sister’s legacy alive through storytelling.

Maria Teresa kept to herself writing in her diary idealizing her older sister Minerva. I feel that Mate was the most sheltered sister, because she was the youngest and she had older sisters who protected her. She broke free from writing in her diary questioning her surrounding asking Minerva to explain herself and the things she does like sneaking about. This was her truing point a sense of reality.

Maria Teresa Timeline.

Maria Teresa Timeline.

1935

- Born

1943

-Age 8, wants to become a lawyer like her older sister Minerva

1945

-Age 10, kept a journal. She called her journal her "Little Book".

-Had her 1^st communion, that her father was absent for.

-Mate started to find her own voice, felt mature for her age because she knew how to read before going to school

-Trusting & naïve of peoples intentions until she meets a young boy (introduced to the opposite sex), who had a hidden agenda to get to know her sister

-Grows up from being a little naïve girl, has a sense of reality

1946

-Mate starts standing up for herself, questioning her sister Minerva (but hasn’t really been exposed to what “reality” is)

-Minerva explains to her why she in sneaking around

Feb. 25, 1946

-Mate turning point hatching out of her cocoon, saying  "It is strange now, I know something...everything looks just a little different.." In a way she starts to wake up becoming a butterfly (very defining moment).

-Has a sense of suspicion of spies and being watched

Mar. 6, 1946

-Mate is in love

July. 20, 1946

-Patria’s baby was born dead

July, 23, 1946

-Mate barriers her diary

1947- Went away to boarding school. Introtuced to the opposite sex, and the fact of hidden agendas.

Dec. 15, 1953

-Papa’s funeral, “feels like death”

-Encounters her father’s other family, “I can’t believe she came to the funeral mass with her girls”

1953

-Meets her future husband

My Little Coochie Snorcher That Could

Ensler’s language is what grabs your attention, being very vulgar and blunt. In each monologue she sets the tone of what the matter of the subject is ranging from sexuality, menstrual cycles, relationships, ect.

         In My Little Coochie Snorcher that Could was all about a girl becoming a women and it expresses how influential the people around you are can be beneficial or scarring. In this monologue it was about finding your identity; mind, body and soul. She takes it to another level of understanding about how a young girl develops “her” own understanding about her body. Her mother explains that her vagina is a “private place” and it shouldn’t be touched. At the age of 10 she was molested by her father’s friend, at that age a girl wouldn’t be able to understand the seriousness of the situation, but what I got from that was how she never got any closure from her mother. I made a connection to The Flood, at the end it read, “You’re the first person I ever talked to about this, and you know what, I feel a little bit better.” Being able to ask questions or tell a story is a great way to open up and have a greater understanding about one’s self. This monologue was a great example of young girls transitioning into women hood and the journey of self discovery.

Sex Education

Sex Education

10. Thinking about one of the facts along with a few other pieces, what do girls need in High School besides "Sex Ed" in order to not get pregnant, etc.?

     Girls in high school learning about “Sex Education” is basic by the text book, boys have a penis, girls have a vagina; they are used for this. I feel that in today’s society young boys and girls are more curious about sex. Starting early as age’s 11-14. I personally can recall an experience in 5th grade when a girl came up to me in the bathroom and asked, “Are you a Virgin?” I had no clue what the hell a “virgin” was! Today on television you have shows like “16 and Pregnant” publicizing young girls who are pregnant and the reality of how they struggle. I feel that younger audiences see getting pregnant at a young age is a ticket to becoming famous even if it is in a negative way. Then you have a show called “Skins” which is about high school teenagers who have sex like it was drinking water. This controversial show exploits the reality of teenagers and the pressures of having sex and being sexually active. For young female viewers the message that they may take from “Skins” is that the more sexual you are the more attentions you will get from boys.

         The reality of young teenagers being more curious is that they are being exposed to it everywhere. Parents have to understand that their kids are being exposed to this sexual epidemic and the reality is that they may not be able to protect their children from sex but that could prevent them from giving into the pressure from peers.

         I believe that Sex Education should start in middle school, because young boys and girls are aware of sex but they do not have an understanding of the seriousness of the act itself. Sex isn’t a one class seminar; it is more of gradual lecture. Students don’t want to be preached on the dangers of sex; students need to be able to connect with the information, maybe by having someone closer in age that can be more relatable. Plus young student feel uncomfortable about opening up and asking questions that they have, maybe by having an anonymous questionnaire box students could really ask what they want without feeling uncomfortable.

The Roses That Grew From Concrete

Did you hear about the rose that grew from a crack in the concrete?
Proving nature's law is wrong it learned to walk with out having feet.
Funny it seems, but by keeping it's dreams, it learned to breathe fresh air.
Long live the rose that grew from concrete when no one else ever cared.

By Tupac Shakur

This poem is one of a few from a book called The Roses That Grew From Concrete by Tupac Shakur. I’m a fan of his writing because his words are rare and even though I may not have lived through his struggles, many people such as myself can relate to.

My interpretation was this poem was about determination; the only thing that is holding you back from making the unachievable, achievable is you. Your environment isn’t what defines you as a person but what you can make of yourself despite the nonbelievers and make them believe. If you lose focus of the goal you set or yourself the more of a struggle you will have breaking free from the concrete, but by conquering one goal the more confident you are to walk on your own and become successful. 

Hopes for a new beginning.

The theme I got from reading Children of the Sea was hope versus reality. The ship was the changes to escape all the violence in Haiti to live in the United States. The reality of the boat was time is of the essence, with all the leaks and not enough tar to cover the holes, it was a matter of time before the ship takes on to much water and will eventually sink.

Celianne was another symbol of hope; being pregnant the unborn child was a sign of new life which everyone on the ship wanted. Just like the boat sinking, it was only a matter of time she was going to give birth. The night of Celianne giving birth I found it ironic because the male narrator mentions about the holes in the boat and who would be thrown overboard if the stimulation got worse.

The reality of how Celianne got pregnant wasn’t a blessing but a burden, being raped against her will by the soldiers. The birth of the child was a turning point, the hope for new beginnings slowly drifted away. Celianne’s baby girl was dead, and she was forced to throw her new born overboard. As Celianne throws her baby over board it was as if she threw the last ounce of hope for survival too. The captain used the last bit of tar, the reality that the ship may not make it set in so he concluded his journal with his personal will. What little hope he had was lost at the bottom of the sea.